10 smart tips

Your own childhood has a big influence on what sort of a parent you become. Reflect on and talk about your upbringing and what you want – and don’t want – to pass on to your own child.

A new child brings many new thoughts, feelings, and expectations. Talk about it with your partner, healthcare professionals, or others you trust.

Having both positive and negative thoughts about becoming a parent is normal. Be open, and devote time to dealing with your thoughts and feelings in order to become more confident about and prepared for the parental role.

Life as the parents of infants has its challenges. Draw up a plan for responding to such demands, which also lists where you can find help.

Crying is a baby’s way of communicating. They cry to tell you that they need help. Feel your way – you’ll eventually become an expert on what your child needs.

Anger, frustration and a sense of powerlessness are normal feelings which affect all parents. If you lose control, it can be unsafe or dangerous for the child, for yourself and for others.

Sleeping well is important for the infant’s development and your ability to care for it. You get less sleep with a baby in the house. Rest when it’s asleep, and ensure you get a respite when it’s needed.

Observe, talk, sing and play with your baby. That builds its brain. Turn everyday tasks like meals and nappy-changing into brain-building activities.

One of the best things you can give your child is a positive relationship between you as parents. And if you’re on your own, involving other people is a good idea for both you and your baby.

You are the most important person in your child’s life. What you do and say leaves its mark – for better or worse. You need to know what could harm your child and how to deal with difficult demands.